Ask Dr. NerdLove: Should I Tell My Girlfriend I Lost My Virginity To A Sex Worker?

5 years ago, I was diagnosed with testicular cancer.

Honestly, as long as you were a decent client - you were polite and considerate of the sex-worker s feelings and safety, tipped well, etc.

- and everyone involved was on board with the transaction including her wanting to do sex-work, not being coerced into it , then it s no harm, no foul.

They date, they have relationships, they have lives and hobbies that lie completely outside of their jobs.

Being in a relationship doesn t mean that you have absolutely no secrets, nor does being honest with someone mean blabbing everything off the top of your head with no filter like you re Jim Carrey in Liar Liar.

If your values are different enough that these minor issues in your past would disgust her and make her leave… well, would it not be better to discover this incompatibility early, instead of having a ticking time-bomb waiting to go off in your relationship?