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Joel Schroeder 2021-07-15
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It’s normal to want to feel good ahead of a date – and for many, that includes feeling like you look good. But hangups about appearances are preventing some daters from getting out there are meeting new people. 

Over half (58%) of people under the age of 34 have cancelled a date due to body insecurities, according to new research from dating app Bumble. 

The same percentage of people said the pandemic has made them more concerned about how they look, while 59% said they feel less confident about their appearance than they did pre-Covid. This is most prevalent among those aged 25-34, where the figure increases to 81%.  

Victoria, a 28-year-old Brit currently living in Lisbon, says body image concerns are the main reason why she doesn’t follow through on dates with people from dating apps – and thing’s have only got tougher this year. 

“I get nervous that they’ll see me and think I don’t look as good as I did in the pictures,” says Victoria, who chose not to share her surname. “It’s worsened during the pandemic simply because I’ve not been able to work out as much and so am feeling more insecure about my body – as well as the fact that the external validation which you’ll sometimes get just from being out and about hasn’t been there, which means I’ve just been left to build up my insecurities in my own head.”

 

Francesca Baker, who has had anorexia for 16 years, says body image worries have caused her to cancel dates both with new guys and long term boyfriends.

“When I feel uncomfortable in my body the idea of even drinks on a date, or putting on nice clothes, can feel too overwhelming. And the idea of getting my kit off for sex, that can be a no-go,” says the 34-year-old from Kent. “Plus the mental anguish of living with it means that I don’t have the energy for sparkling conversation.”

The warmer weather and summer season can also contributes to poor body confidence in some, with two thirds of people (55% men, 74% women) saying they feel pressure to lose weight and get into shape for summer.  

Nine in 10 people also feel more physically judged when dating than in other areas of life, with one in four saying that they have been body shamed online on a dating app or social media.

Richard Meade, 37, from Edinburgh, has cancelled dates through fear of physical judgement in the past, sometimes with just minutes to spare. 

He’ll sometimes use other commitments, like looking after his son, as an excuse, but says in his head, he’s thinking: “She won’t like a guy who looks like this.” He worries about looking bloated, or spends time debating whether to be shaven, unshaven or with stubble. 

“I’m not short on confidence on Tinder, and have matched and spoken with some really nice ladies. But right up until the moment it comes to meet, I look at myself and start to doubt,” he says. “I look at the dent where I sit and the creases in my crisp white shirt. I cancel, and go back to do anything that I could do without feeling I don’t deserve to be sat on this date.”

To help daters feel more body confident, Bumble is cracking down on those who body shame others while using its app. People who use body shaming language in their profile or through the app’s chat function will first receive a warning for their inappropriate behaviour from a content moderator. If there are repeated incidents or particularly harmful comments, Bumble will permanently remove the individual from the app.  

The app has also partnered with body confidence activist and co-host of the Body Protest podcast Honey Ross, who has given her top tips and affirmations to help people feel great about themselves, in the lead up to a date this summer.

If you struggle with body confidence before a date, this is her advice: 

Be your own hype-person

“Remind yourself that you are excited, deserving of this date and confident you will have things to talk about – just look at how many profile badges you have in common,” says Ross. “Remember, someone new is looking forward to meeting you, because you have so much to offer.”

Dress with confidence

Don’t like how you look in any of your outfits? Remember to celebrate your individuality. “Remind yourself that your body is beautiful and unique to you,” says Ross. “No matter what you wear or how you do your hair, your beauty is yours and clear for all to see.” 

Remember: you’re not alone

“Just before the date, remind yourself that you are confident, welcoming and charming. You are also not alone, 55% of people in the UK also struggle with confidence when it comes to dating so seek comfort in knowing that nerves are normal,” says Ross. “And remember, even if the date doesn’t work out romantically, it’s no reflection on you – you’re great to spend time with, every experience is a learning experience and will only help you work out exactly what you want from your next potential match.” 

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Joel Schroeder 2021-04-08
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NASA engineers will try and attempt the first flight on Mars in just a few days time -- and it could change space exploration forever.
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Joel Schroeder 2021-01-31
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The viral sea shanties prove that songs should be passed around more freely and not locked up by antiquated copyright laws.
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Joel Schroeder 2020-09-15
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There are almost 3,000 children in England in need of an adoptive family, but misconceptions around adoption are stopping many of them finding loving homes.

A new national campaign – #YouCanAdopt – aims to bust some of the most prevalent myths surrounding adoption, to widen the pool of people currently considering it.

The campaign creators want to boost overall numbers of people enquiring about adoption, but particularly want to appeal to perspective parents from Black, Asian and minority ethnic families, as children in these groups traditionally take longer to place

The initiative is by a coalition of national, regional and voluntary adoption agencies across the country, supported by the Department for Education. Research from the group has found four in 10 people don’t know if they’re eligible to adopt and less than a third (29%) think they wouldn’t be able to.

The stats are particularly troubling considering the number of adoptions in England has fallen by a third in four years. 

Think adoption isn’t for you? Here’s the truth about seven myths you need to read, first. 

Myth 1: You have to be a homeowner 

False. You can adopt if you live in rented accommodation. You do have to show that you have a “permanent home” though, which means you’ll need to demonstrate a “reasonable tenancy” agreement on the property and show that you have access to another property (be that with friends or family), in the event of the tenancy unexpectedly ending. 

Myth 2: You have to have a high salary 

False. The #YouCanAdopt site states that perspective parents need to demonstrate a “stable lifestyle”, but you don’t have to earn megabucks.

You’re allowed to adopt if you have debts and it’s also possible to adopt if you receive unemployment benefits or other benefits. In some circumstances, financial support may be available from the agency placing the child.  

Myth 3: You can’t adopt if you’re single 

False. A survey by the coalition group uncovered that 46% of people were unsure if a single person can adopt – and 17% incorrectly said single people definitely can’t adopt. However, this is not true, so being a solo perspective parent shouldn’t put you off. 

Myth 4: Your sexuality matters 

False. Surprisingly, more than a quarter (26%) of people surveyed said they weren’t sure if LGBTQ+ people were eligible to adopt. Thankfully though, sexuality doesn’t matter – almost 500 children were adopted by same sex couples last year. 

Myth 5: Your age matters 

Half true. The only age restriction is that adoptive parents must be over the age of 21. Of those surveyed, 65% thought there were restrictions for people over the age of 50, but there’s no upper age limit, providing you can care for a child.

Myth 6: You can’t adopt with a medical condition or disability

False. People with medical conditions and disabilities regularly adopt. The campaign’s site explains that you’ll simply need to discuss what support is in place to enable you to care for a child.

“The focus will be on considering how you can consistently meet the needs of a child throughout their childhood,” the site says. 

Myth 7: Coronavirus will put your plans on hold

False. Adoption can often be a lengthy process, so if you want to do it, don’t let the pandemic slow you down. You can find an agency and begin the process using this online map.  

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Joel Schroeder 2021-07-05
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And so were two other app-makers that also happen to have listed in the USA lately

Updated  Chinese ride hailing app DiDi Chuxing was on Sunday removed from local app stores on on grounds that it did not comply with data protection laws. The ban came less than a week after the company’s US stock market debut.…

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Joel Schroeder 2021-03-11
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Following in the footsteps of visual novels like Hatoful Boyfriend and Dream Daddy, this cryptid romance subverts expectations for the genre.
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Joel Schroeder 2021-01-06
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Stacey Abrams helped register hundreds of thousands of new voters in a state with a long and troubled history of suppressing Black voters.
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Joel Schroeder 2020-09-14
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In a TV stunt only on-camera supporters were shown wearing masks in a seeming bid to deflect criticism of the president for flouting coronavirus rules.
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Joel Schroeder 2021-06-30
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A love story can be found amid the head-shredding horror of the R.L. Stine adaptation.
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Joel Schroeder 2021-03-07
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A new mailbox installed outside the Bessemer warehouse—along with texts from Amazon encouraging workers to use it to vote—fueled a conspiracy theory that the company was looking to snatch up ballots before the count
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Joel Schroeder 2020-09-25
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"If he tries it today, I want you to trip him and I'm gonna sit on him," former New York Gov. David Paterson recalls Christie saying.
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Joel Schroeder 2020-08-29
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The "Kenosha Guard" page stayed up a full nine hours after an armed vigilante shot three people in the city before Facebook finally took it down.
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Joel Schroeder 2021-06-08
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Proceed with caution if you’re going to start rumours about Mariah Carey

The music superstar has responded to reports that she permanently cut ties with Jay-Z’s management company, Roc Nation, in the wake of an “explosive” meeting with the rap entrepreneur that left their decades-long relationship in tatters. 

An unnamed source told The Sun last week that Carey had “sensationally quit” the label, which she signed with back in 2017, over a “blazing row” with Jay-Z.

The two artists reportedly clashed over the direction of her career, as Carey plans to launch a new “heavily R&B-influenced album” and a world tour in the next year. 

But on Monday, Carey brushed off the gossip with a distinctly Mariah retort on social media to set the record straight. 

“The only ‘explosive’ situation I’d ever ‘get into’ with Hov is a creative tangent, such as our #1 song ‘Heartbreaker’!!” she wrote alongside a clip from the iconic music video. “To the people who make up these lies I say ‘Poof! —Vamoose, sonofa*****’!” 

The Sun report claimed Carey was set to “formally depart in the next few weeks” after the meeting.

“It is a shame because they had done some great work in the last few years,” the source was quoted in The Sun’s story. “But this meeting couldn’t have gone much worse. Mariah has been talking to other managers and thinks she has found someone who she feels has full belief in her as she takes her next steps. She isn’t letting this stand in her way.”

After joining forces on the chart-topping 1999 smash single, Carey and Jay-Z have remained in each other’s orbit, collaborating on various tracks together, including “Things That U Do” and a “Shake It Off” remix, throughout the years.

The two made their partnership official in 2017 when Carey signed with Roc Nation for management following a particularly volatile period for the pop icon that culminated in her disastrous 2016 New Year’s Eve performance. 

Mariah Carey and Jay-Z attend a Roc Nation event together in 2018.

The partnership seemingly has been a fruitful one for Carey. The singer released 2018’s Caution, her best-reviewed studio album in years, and most recently the compilation album The Rarities, which celebrated the 30th anniversary of her self-titled debut record, all while working with Roc Nation.

She also published a best-selling memoir The Meaning of Mariah Carey and continued her reign as the holiday queen thanks to the omnipresence of All I Want for Christmas Is You and her Apple TV+ project Mariah Carey’s Magical Christmas Special.

However, as some fans noted, Carey no longer appears on Roc Nation’s website as one of the artists the company represents.

Despite the change, all seems good between the longtime collaborators, as Carey reportedly followed her former Roc Nation manager Melissa Ruderman to Range Media Partners, which currently manages the singer. 

“This story is completely made up,” an unnamed source told The New York Post. “The relationship with Roc Nation ended amicably and Mariah and Jay-Z are on great terms.”

Whew, heartbreak avoided.

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Joel Schroeder 2021-02-14
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Seven people who attended a nurse's funeral later came down with diarrhea, vomiting, and bleeding. Now Guinea has confirmed a new Ebola outbreak.
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Joel Schroeder 2020-09-24
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Working from home is hardly a new phenomenon, but the COVID-19 pandemic has made it an unplanned requirement for many office and knowledge workers. Even as the coronavirus crisis eventually recedes, many employers will have discovered that they don’t need large office buildings, and many employees will have discovered that they don’t need to be in the office every day or spend hours commuting.

But many people have set up makeshift home offices for the pandemic that won’t work well for the long term. In addition to having the right equipment, the physical setup — the ergonomics of the workspace — is critical, especially around avoiding repetitive strain injuries that a bad setup can cause. I suffered such RSI issues 20 years ago and narrowly avoided a relapse a year ago, so I know what it takes to get back to and stay in a workable status.

To read this article in full, please click here

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Joel Schroeder 2020-08-17
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Joel Schroeder 2021-07-15
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It’s normal to want to feel good ahead of a date – and for many, that includes feeling like you look good. But hangups about appearances are preventing some daters from getting out there are meeting new people. 

Over half (58%) of people under the age of 34 have cancelled a date due to body insecurities, according to new research from dating app Bumble. 

The same percentage of people said the pandemic has made them more concerned about how they look, while 59% said they feel less confident about their appearance than they did pre-Covid. This is most prevalent among those aged 25-34, where the figure increases to 81%.  

Victoria, a 28-year-old Brit currently living in Lisbon, says body image concerns are the main reason why she doesn’t follow through on dates with people from dating apps – and thing’s have only got tougher this year. 

“I get nervous that they’ll see me and think I don’t look as good as I did in the pictures,” says Victoria, who chose not to share her surname. “It’s worsened during the pandemic simply because I’ve not been able to work out as much and so am feeling more insecure about my body – as well as the fact that the external validation which you’ll sometimes get just from being out and about hasn’t been there, which means I’ve just been left to build up my insecurities in my own head.”

 

Francesca Baker, who has had anorexia for 16 years, says body image worries have caused her to cancel dates both with new guys and long term boyfriends.

“When I feel uncomfortable in my body the idea of even drinks on a date, or putting on nice clothes, can feel too overwhelming. And the idea of getting my kit off for sex, that can be a no-go,” says the 34-year-old from Kent. “Plus the mental anguish of living with it means that I don’t have the energy for sparkling conversation.”

The warmer weather and summer season can also contributes to poor body confidence in some, with two thirds of people (55% men, 74% women) saying they feel pressure to lose weight and get into shape for summer.  

Nine in 10 people also feel more physically judged when dating than in other areas of life, with one in four saying that they have been body shamed online on a dating app or social media.

Richard Meade, 37, from Edinburgh, has cancelled dates through fear of physical judgement in the past, sometimes with just minutes to spare. 

He’ll sometimes use other commitments, like looking after his son, as an excuse, but says in his head, he’s thinking: “She won’t like a guy who looks like this.” He worries about looking bloated, or spends time debating whether to be shaven, unshaven or with stubble. 

“I’m not short on confidence on Tinder, and have matched and spoken with some really nice ladies. But right up until the moment it comes to meet, I look at myself and start to doubt,” he says. “I look at the dent where I sit and the creases in my crisp white shirt. I cancel, and go back to do anything that I could do without feeling I don’t deserve to be sat on this date.”

To help daters feel more body confident, Bumble is cracking down on those who body shame others while using its app. People who use body shaming language in their profile or through the app’s chat function will first receive a warning for their inappropriate behaviour from a content moderator. If there are repeated incidents or particularly harmful comments, Bumble will permanently remove the individual from the app.  

The app has also partnered with body confidence activist and co-host of the Body Protest podcast Honey Ross, who has given her top tips and affirmations to help people feel great about themselves, in the lead up to a date this summer.

If you struggle with body confidence before a date, this is her advice: 

Be your own hype-person

“Remind yourself that you are excited, deserving of this date and confident you will have things to talk about – just look at how many profile badges you have in common,” says Ross. “Remember, someone new is looking forward to meeting you, because you have so much to offer.”

Dress with confidence

Don’t like how you look in any of your outfits? Remember to celebrate your individuality. “Remind yourself that your body is beautiful and unique to you,” says Ross. “No matter what you wear or how you do your hair, your beauty is yours and clear for all to see.” 

Remember: you’re not alone

“Just before the date, remind yourself that you are confident, welcoming and charming. You are also not alone, 55% of people in the UK also struggle with confidence when it comes to dating so seek comfort in knowing that nerves are normal,” says Ross. “And remember, even if the date doesn’t work out romantically, it’s no reflection on you – you’re great to spend time with, every experience is a learning experience and will only help you work out exactly what you want from your next potential match.” 

Joel Schroeder 2021-06-30
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A love story can be found amid the head-shredding horror of the R.L. Stine adaptation.
Joel Schroeder 2021-04-08
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NASA engineers will try and attempt the first flight on Mars in just a few days time -- and it could change space exploration forever.
Joel Schroeder 2021-03-07
img
A new mailbox installed outside the Bessemer warehouse—along with texts from Amazon encouraging workers to use it to vote—fueled a conspiracy theory that the company was looking to snatch up ballots before the count
Joel Schroeder 2021-01-31
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The viral sea shanties prove that songs should be passed around more freely and not locked up by antiquated copyright laws.
Joel Schroeder 2020-09-25
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"If he tries it today, I want you to trip him and I'm gonna sit on him," former New York Gov. David Paterson recalls Christie saying.
Joel Schroeder 2020-09-15
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There are almost 3,000 children in England in need of an adoptive family, but misconceptions around adoption are stopping many of them finding loving homes.

A new national campaign – #YouCanAdopt – aims to bust some of the most prevalent myths surrounding adoption, to widen the pool of people currently considering it.

The campaign creators want to boost overall numbers of people enquiring about adoption, but particularly want to appeal to perspective parents from Black, Asian and minority ethnic families, as children in these groups traditionally take longer to place

The initiative is by a coalition of national, regional and voluntary adoption agencies across the country, supported by the Department for Education. Research from the group has found four in 10 people don’t know if they’re eligible to adopt and less than a third (29%) think they wouldn’t be able to.

The stats are particularly troubling considering the number of adoptions in England has fallen by a third in four years. 

Think adoption isn’t for you? Here’s the truth about seven myths you need to read, first. 

Myth 1: You have to be a homeowner 

False. You can adopt if you live in rented accommodation. You do have to show that you have a “permanent home” though, which means you’ll need to demonstrate a “reasonable tenancy” agreement on the property and show that you have access to another property (be that with friends or family), in the event of the tenancy unexpectedly ending. 

Myth 2: You have to have a high salary 

False. The #YouCanAdopt site states that perspective parents need to demonstrate a “stable lifestyle”, but you don’t have to earn megabucks.

You’re allowed to adopt if you have debts and it’s also possible to adopt if you receive unemployment benefits or other benefits. In some circumstances, financial support may be available from the agency placing the child.  

Myth 3: You can’t adopt if you’re single 

False. A survey by the coalition group uncovered that 46% of people were unsure if a single person can adopt – and 17% incorrectly said single people definitely can’t adopt. However, this is not true, so being a solo perspective parent shouldn’t put you off. 

Myth 4: Your sexuality matters 

False. Surprisingly, more than a quarter (26%) of people surveyed said they weren’t sure if LGBTQ+ people were eligible to adopt. Thankfully though, sexuality doesn’t matter – almost 500 children were adopted by same sex couples last year. 

Myth 5: Your age matters 

Half true. The only age restriction is that adoptive parents must be over the age of 21. Of those surveyed, 65% thought there were restrictions for people over the age of 50, but there’s no upper age limit, providing you can care for a child.

Myth 6: You can’t adopt with a medical condition or disability

False. People with medical conditions and disabilities regularly adopt. The campaign’s site explains that you’ll simply need to discuss what support is in place to enable you to care for a child.

“The focus will be on considering how you can consistently meet the needs of a child throughout their childhood,” the site says. 

Myth 7: Coronavirus will put your plans on hold

False. Adoption can often be a lengthy process, so if you want to do it, don’t let the pandemic slow you down. You can find an agency and begin the process using this online map.  

Joel Schroeder 2020-08-29
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The "Kenosha Guard" page stayed up a full nine hours after an armed vigilante shot three people in the city before Facebook finally took it down.
Joel Schroeder 2021-07-05
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And so were two other app-makers that also happen to have listed in the USA lately

Updated  Chinese ride hailing app DiDi Chuxing was on Sunday removed from local app stores on on grounds that it did not comply with data protection laws. The ban came less than a week after the company’s US stock market debut.…

Joel Schroeder 2021-06-08
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Proceed with caution if you’re going to start rumours about Mariah Carey

The music superstar has responded to reports that she permanently cut ties with Jay-Z’s management company, Roc Nation, in the wake of an “explosive” meeting with the rap entrepreneur that left their decades-long relationship in tatters. 

An unnamed source told The Sun last week that Carey had “sensationally quit” the label, which she signed with back in 2017, over a “blazing row” with Jay-Z.

The two artists reportedly clashed over the direction of her career, as Carey plans to launch a new “heavily R&B-influenced album” and a world tour in the next year. 

But on Monday, Carey brushed off the gossip with a distinctly Mariah retort on social media to set the record straight. 

“The only ‘explosive’ situation I’d ever ‘get into’ with Hov is a creative tangent, such as our #1 song ‘Heartbreaker’!!” she wrote alongside a clip from the iconic music video. “To the people who make up these lies I say ‘Poof! —Vamoose, sonofa*****’!” 

The Sun report claimed Carey was set to “formally depart in the next few weeks” after the meeting.

“It is a shame because they had done some great work in the last few years,” the source was quoted in The Sun’s story. “But this meeting couldn’t have gone much worse. Mariah has been talking to other managers and thinks she has found someone who she feels has full belief in her as she takes her next steps. She isn’t letting this stand in her way.”

After joining forces on the chart-topping 1999 smash single, Carey and Jay-Z have remained in each other’s orbit, collaborating on various tracks together, including “Things That U Do” and a “Shake It Off” remix, throughout the years.

The two made their partnership official in 2017 when Carey signed with Roc Nation for management following a particularly volatile period for the pop icon that culminated in her disastrous 2016 New Year’s Eve performance. 

Mariah Carey and Jay-Z attend a Roc Nation event together in 2018.

The partnership seemingly has been a fruitful one for Carey. The singer released 2018’s Caution, her best-reviewed studio album in years, and most recently the compilation album The Rarities, which celebrated the 30th anniversary of her self-titled debut record, all while working with Roc Nation.

She also published a best-selling memoir The Meaning of Mariah Carey and continued her reign as the holiday queen thanks to the omnipresence of All I Want for Christmas Is You and her Apple TV+ project Mariah Carey’s Magical Christmas Special.

However, as some fans noted, Carey no longer appears on Roc Nation’s website as one of the artists the company represents.

Despite the change, all seems good between the longtime collaborators, as Carey reportedly followed her former Roc Nation manager Melissa Ruderman to Range Media Partners, which currently manages the singer. 

“This story is completely made up,” an unnamed source told The New York Post. “The relationship with Roc Nation ended amicably and Mariah and Jay-Z are on great terms.”

Whew, heartbreak avoided.

Joel Schroeder 2021-03-11
img
Following in the footsteps of visual novels like Hatoful Boyfriend and Dream Daddy, this cryptid romance subverts expectations for the genre.
Joel Schroeder 2021-02-14
img
Seven people who attended a nurse's funeral later came down with diarrhea, vomiting, and bleeding. Now Guinea has confirmed a new Ebola outbreak.
Joel Schroeder 2021-01-06
img
Stacey Abrams helped register hundreds of thousands of new voters in a state with a long and troubled history of suppressing Black voters.
Joel Schroeder 2020-09-24
img

Working from home is hardly a new phenomenon, but the COVID-19 pandemic has made it an unplanned requirement for many office and knowledge workers. Even as the coronavirus crisis eventually recedes, many employers will have discovered that they don’t need large office buildings, and many employees will have discovered that they don’t need to be in the office every day or spend hours commuting.

But many people have set up makeshift home offices for the pandemic that won’t work well for the long term. In addition to having the right equipment, the physical setup — the ergonomics of the workspace — is critical, especially around avoiding repetitive strain injuries that a bad setup can cause. I suffered such RSI issues 20 years ago and narrowly avoided a relapse a year ago, so I know what it takes to get back to and stay in a workable status.

To read this article in full, please click here

Joel Schroeder 2020-09-14
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In a TV stunt only on-camera supporters were shown wearing masks in a seeming bid to deflect criticism of the president for flouting coronavirus rules.
Joel Schroeder 2020-08-17
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See the unusually asymmetrical Meathook Galaxy