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Eco-friendly convenience repays deposits using world's first craptocurrency

A professor at South Korea's Ulsan National Institute of Science and Technology (UNIST), presumably fed up with students at the university flushing their money down the drain, has come up with a system that manages to reverse that action.…

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Immelt says he regularly called and leaned on former CEO Jack Welch to navigate challenging times like the 2008-09 financial crisis.
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Jose Wenger 2021-03-21
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"This is a direct challenge to Roe v. Wade," Arkansas Gov. Asa Hutchinson said of the near-total ban. "And that's the intent of the legislation."
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At the end of last year, something magnificent happened: I got an Xbox Series X. The experience alone was enthralling, but the real joy is how my relationship with it has shifted. It’s moved from being a solo entertainment machine, to an adored social tool. And that’s all down to Game Pass. If you’re unaware of Game Pass, it’s a monthly Xbox subscription from Microsoft that allows you to play online and access a library of over 100 titles. And I mean good titles. This has Halo, FIFA, Forza, Gears of War, and so much more. It’s crazily stacked. I’ll put it this…

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Jose Wenger 2021-06-20
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Having an orgasm isn’t the be all and end all to great sex, but it certainly helps the good times flow.

In a survey of 2,769 people, most of whom identified as female, 15% said they orgasm every time they have sex with a partner, 45% said most of the time, 27% said rarely, and 13% said they never orgasm. When discussing the barriers to orgasm, the top reasons flagged in the survey by Cosmopolitan UK were: the partner, body confidence, sex drive and mental health.

Orgasms make us feel good. They’re pleasurable (obvs), but they can also boost our mood, relieve stress and help us feel close to our partners. While we shouldn’t be pressuring ourselves to have them all the time – after all, sex can still be amazing without – there are things that can be done to help break down those barriers to orgasm so every sexual encounter can feel more liberating.

We asked a sexologist and sex therapist for their advice on overcoming some of the common barriers to orgasm you might face in the bedroom.

If your partner is behind your orgasm struggles

Cosmo’s survey revealed 39% say it’s a partner who’s stopping them having more orgasms. And there are many reasons why this might be the case. 

“It could be that they aren’t providing the correct stimulation the person needs, the person doesn’t feel safe with their partner, or they expect their partner to know what they like without ever saying what they like,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sexologist and author of All The F*cking Mistakes.

Sex and relationships psychotherapist Miranda Christophers often speaks to women who feel under pressure from partners to orgasm, which isn’t conducive to a good time because you’re constantly thinking you need to achieve something – and the more you reach for it, the further it’ll shy away.

“The partner wants to see that they’re really enjoying the sexual experience and while intentions may be good, this can put a lot of pressure on someone,” says Christophers. “Similarly, impatience in a partner can cause issues – most women find they need time to fully relax and ‘let go’. Comments such as, ‘Are you close yet?’ take people up into their head rather than being in their body with their mind totally connected with pleasure.”

Comments such as, ‘Are you close yet?’ take people up into their head rather than being in their body with their mind totally connected with pleasure.Miranda Christophers, sex therapist

As with most things relating to relationships, the key to pushing past this is communication. This responsibility falls on both partners, who should be advocating for themselves and their partner’s pleasure in an empathetic way. “This creates an atmosphere of exploration rather than discomfort,” says Engle.

If, for example, you’re worrying about your partner’s expectations in bed – and that’s scuppering your ability to orgasm – you need to talk about that. “It’s far more enjoyable and issues are less likely when people don’t feel there are expectations at all – from their partner or themselves,” says Christophers.

If the difficulty achieving orgasm is related to technique or approach, it’s helpful for partners to understand, so this can be adjusted. Instead of saying ‘this is what doesn’t work’, think about what might work or what you may like to try instead and focus on that. Don’t be afraid to put forward suggestions of how to switch things up, either. 

Whatever your preferences, chances are your partner will appreciate the heads up. “Stimulation preferences vary,” Christophers continues, “some prefer to stimulate themselves while others prefer a partner’s hand or oral sex. Some women prefer to use vibrators, orgasm with penetration (or without), before, after or at the same time as a partner, or prefer specific positions or rhythms”. 

If body confidence is getting in the way

If there are specific areas of your body you’re not comfortable with, it might help to focus on the features of your body you like rather than things you don’t, adds Christophers. “Remind yourself that your sexual partner is attracted to you so they enjoy your body. I think it’s always important to remind ourselves that... we are far more critical of ourselves than anyone else will ever be.”

Stand in front of the mirror and allow yourself to try and see what your partner sees. “If it helps, ask them, or a friend you trust, what they like about you, or feel are attractive attributes,” suggests the therapist.

“Ultimately, if you can recognise your own great qualities... this will really help. Feeling sexy and confident as a sexual being has a lot to do with desire and arousal, so consider what makes you feel this way.”

This could be what you wear, feeling fit and healthy, or being happy with your diet. For others, it might be more about the context when you’re having sex. Things that may help to improve confidence may be having music on, being in a particular place, mood lighting or enjoying some flirtation or chemistry first.

If it’s about ‘sex drive’

Low desire tends to result from the type of sex you’re having, says Engle. “Sex is not an innate human ‘drive’,” she says. “It is not like eating or sleeping. You won’t die without orgasms. The misnomer comes from the feelings we have when we’re sexually aroused – it feels like a animalistic hunger – but it isn’t.”

There are two types of horniness, says the sexologist, and usually only hear about one: spontaneous desire. The other, responsive (or receptive) desire, is much more common, she says. “We need something to trigger that horniness, whether it’s an event, erotic imagery, a fantasy, a smell,” she explains. 

“Sexual desire is a bio-psycho-social event. For desire to occur, we need the right number of factors to be in play. Bio (our body) needs to be receptive to arousal; psycho (our mind) needs to be in a mindset that allows for desire; and the social aspects (the relationship with the person/s involved in the sexual encounter) need to be in place – we need to be with people we find attractive, feel safe with, who know how to please us sexually and so on.”

Positive feelings around sex are key here. “Explore your own body, discover what feels good through self-exploration and self-pleasure,” says Christophers. “Allow yourself to think about turn-ons and understand what increases, decreases, peaks or interrupts desire and arousal for you.”

It’s about educating, empowering and liberating yourself. And that might mean challenging yours – or your partner’s – views around sex. But it’ll be worth it.

If mental health is a barrier

Mental health issues– as well as medicines taken for mental illness – can heavily impact on sexual desire, arousal and ability to orgasm. If this is the case for you, it’s important to be kind to yourself, says Christophers. “Communicate with your partner so they know how you’re feeling, and so they can understand it’s related to that, rather than anything they are/aren’t doing.”

Once you’ve had that conversation, take the pressure off yourself. Don’t feel you have to orgasm – or have sex for that matter. Cosmo’s survey found 91% of respondents said sex can be good or pleasurable without an orgasm – and more than half (51%) said they feel satisfied if they don’t orgasm during sex.

And if you do have sex, remember it’s not all about the destination, says Christophers. “Think of it as a journey to enjoy. If you’re having solo or partnered sex, let the focus be on relaxing, taking pressure off and touching for pleasure.”

There are positive mental benefits to having sex – even without the orgasm – because of chemicals released during and after, and the sense of connection it can bring. “It’s worth remembering while orgasms are great, feeling good during and after sex is great, too,” adds Christophers. 

And if you’re really struggling, it might be worth seeking out a qualified sex therapist who specialises in anxiety and depression, or other mental health disorders, as they’ll be able to offer more specific help.

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Jose Wenger 2021-05-27
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If you’ve ever felt like your life would suck without The Kelly Clarkson Show, you’re in luck. 

NBC has announced that Ellen DeGeneres’ daytime slot will be replaced with singer Kelly Clarkson’s talk show beginning in autumn 2022.

The decision comes just weeks after news broke that the comedian would be ending her long-running show, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, next year amid toxic workplace allegations

Kelly Clarkson on the “The Kelly Clarkson Show.”

Kelly’s Emmy-winning talk show is currently running its second season and is syndicated across the US on 200 stations. The hour-long show was renewed in December 2020 for two additional seasons through 2023.

“We look forward to Ellen DeGeneres’ 19th season paired with Kelly Clarkson for what is sure to be a blockbuster year,” Valari Staab, president of NBCUniversal Local, said in a statement to HuffPost. “By 2022, The Kelly Clarkson Show will be the star of our daytime entertainment schedules and an asset to our early afternoon newscasts.”

“Kelly and our entire production team put their heart, intent and incredible passion into making a show that resonates with people of all ages, cultures and backgrounds,” Tracie Wilson, executive vice president for NBCUniversal Syndication Studios, added. ”We’re working on some big plans for season 3 and are looking forward to becoming the premier show in daytime for years to come.”

Since the end of Ellen’s show was announced earlier this month, there has been speculation about who would replace the former daytime talk show queen. Some believed Tiffany Haddish would take over, since the comedian and actor has filled in for DeGeneres as host numerous times.

But it looks like Kelly will get the crown.

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Jose Wenger 2021-03-19
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My unarticulated suspicions about Asian women being objectified, dehumanized targets have been confirmed.
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Jose Wenger 2021-02-13
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"Let's face it. Now the whole world knows where the vulnerabilities of the Capitol are," said one officer. "I don't trust the people above me."
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Jose Wenger 2021-06-17
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Another petition is urging the billionaire to buy and eat the Mona Lisa. Ciao?
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Jose Wenger 2021-04-30
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It is the first know case of embalmed pregnancy, according to the Warsaw Mummy Project who led the study published on Wednesday.
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The pandemic has forced many of our mourning rituals online. Here are some basic rules to make sure you’re not unintentionally causing offense.
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Jose Wenger 2021-01-22
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As first embodied by Sean Connery, Bond set the standard for secret agents on screen. Across Roger Moore, Pierce Brosnan, Daniel Craig and other actors, the film franchise has stood the test of time.
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Jose Wenger 2021-06-16
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Porsche said it best in describing the 2022 911 GT3 Touring: “It’s a high-performance athlete that does not show off about its talent and loves understatement,” said the German carmaker. So we essentially have here a hardcore, track-ready, and roadgoing version of a Porsche 911 without the GT3’s gigantic rear wing. Nice, huh? Porsche also offered the Touring package from … Continue reading
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The Switch has one of the best catalogues in gaming, here are our favourites.
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Jose Wenger 2021-02-25
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"WandaVision" finally topped "The Mandalorian" and "Cobra Kai" as the most in-demand original streaming series in the US.
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Jose Wenger 2021-01-05
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ElectroRAT was written from scratch and was likely installed by thousands.
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Jose Wenger 2021-07-12
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Eco-friendly convenience repays deposits using world's first craptocurrency

A professor at South Korea's Ulsan National Institute of Science and Technology (UNIST), presumably fed up with students at the university flushing their money down the drain, has come up with a system that manages to reverse that action.…

Jose Wenger 2021-06-17
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Another petition is urging the billionaire to buy and eat the Mona Lisa. Ciao?
Jose Wenger 2021-06-05
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Immelt says he regularly called and leaned on former CEO Jack Welch to navigate challenging times like the 2008-09 financial crisis.
Jose Wenger 2021-04-30
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It is the first know case of embalmed pregnancy, according to the Warsaw Mummy Project who led the study published on Wednesday.
Jose Wenger 2021-03-21
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"This is a direct challenge to Roe v. Wade," Arkansas Gov. Asa Hutchinson said of the near-total ban. "And that's the intent of the legislation."
Jose Wenger 2021-03-17
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The pandemic has forced many of our mourning rituals online. Here are some basic rules to make sure you’re not unintentionally causing offense.
Jose Wenger 2021-02-18
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At the end of last year, something magnificent happened: I got an Xbox Series X. The experience alone was enthralling, but the real joy is how my relationship with it has shifted. It’s moved from being a solo entertainment machine, to an adored social tool. And that’s all down to Game Pass. If you’re unaware of Game Pass, it’s a monthly Xbox subscription from Microsoft that allows you to play online and access a library of over 100 titles. And I mean good titles. This has Halo, FIFA, Forza, Gears of War, and so much more. It’s crazily stacked. I’ll put it this…

This story continues at The Next Web
Jose Wenger 2021-01-22
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As first embodied by Sean Connery, Bond set the standard for secret agents on screen. Across Roger Moore, Pierce Brosnan, Daniel Craig and other actors, the film franchise has stood the test of time.
Jose Wenger 2021-06-20
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Having an orgasm isn’t the be all and end all to great sex, but it certainly helps the good times flow.

In a survey of 2,769 people, most of whom identified as female, 15% said they orgasm every time they have sex with a partner, 45% said most of the time, 27% said rarely, and 13% said they never orgasm. When discussing the barriers to orgasm, the top reasons flagged in the survey by Cosmopolitan UK were: the partner, body confidence, sex drive and mental health.

Orgasms make us feel good. They’re pleasurable (obvs), but they can also boost our mood, relieve stress and help us feel close to our partners. While we shouldn’t be pressuring ourselves to have them all the time – after all, sex can still be amazing without – there are things that can be done to help break down those barriers to orgasm so every sexual encounter can feel more liberating.

We asked a sexologist and sex therapist for their advice on overcoming some of the common barriers to orgasm you might face in the bedroom.

If your partner is behind your orgasm struggles

Cosmo’s survey revealed 39% say it’s a partner who’s stopping them having more orgasms. And there are many reasons why this might be the case. 

“It could be that they aren’t providing the correct stimulation the person needs, the person doesn’t feel safe with their partner, or they expect their partner to know what they like without ever saying what they like,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sexologist and author of All The F*cking Mistakes.

Sex and relationships psychotherapist Miranda Christophers often speaks to women who feel under pressure from partners to orgasm, which isn’t conducive to a good time because you’re constantly thinking you need to achieve something – and the more you reach for it, the further it’ll shy away.

“The partner wants to see that they’re really enjoying the sexual experience and while intentions may be good, this can put a lot of pressure on someone,” says Christophers. “Similarly, impatience in a partner can cause issues – most women find they need time to fully relax and ‘let go’. Comments such as, ‘Are you close yet?’ take people up into their head rather than being in their body with their mind totally connected with pleasure.”

Comments such as, ‘Are you close yet?’ take people up into their head rather than being in their body with their mind totally connected with pleasure.Miranda Christophers, sex therapist

As with most things relating to relationships, the key to pushing past this is communication. This responsibility falls on both partners, who should be advocating for themselves and their partner’s pleasure in an empathetic way. “This creates an atmosphere of exploration rather than discomfort,” says Engle.

If, for example, you’re worrying about your partner’s expectations in bed – and that’s scuppering your ability to orgasm – you need to talk about that. “It’s far more enjoyable and issues are less likely when people don’t feel there are expectations at all – from their partner or themselves,” says Christophers.

If the difficulty achieving orgasm is related to technique or approach, it’s helpful for partners to understand, so this can be adjusted. Instead of saying ‘this is what doesn’t work’, think about what might work or what you may like to try instead and focus on that. Don’t be afraid to put forward suggestions of how to switch things up, either. 

Whatever your preferences, chances are your partner will appreciate the heads up. “Stimulation preferences vary,” Christophers continues, “some prefer to stimulate themselves while others prefer a partner’s hand or oral sex. Some women prefer to use vibrators, orgasm with penetration (or without), before, after or at the same time as a partner, or prefer specific positions or rhythms”. 

If body confidence is getting in the way

If there are specific areas of your body you’re not comfortable with, it might help to focus on the features of your body you like rather than things you don’t, adds Christophers. “Remind yourself that your sexual partner is attracted to you so they enjoy your body. I think it’s always important to remind ourselves that... we are far more critical of ourselves than anyone else will ever be.”

Stand in front of the mirror and allow yourself to try and see what your partner sees. “If it helps, ask them, or a friend you trust, what they like about you, or feel are attractive attributes,” suggests the therapist.

“Ultimately, if you can recognise your own great qualities... this will really help. Feeling sexy and confident as a sexual being has a lot to do with desire and arousal, so consider what makes you feel this way.”

This could be what you wear, feeling fit and healthy, or being happy with your diet. For others, it might be more about the context when you’re having sex. Things that may help to improve confidence may be having music on, being in a particular place, mood lighting or enjoying some flirtation or chemistry first.

If it’s about ‘sex drive’

Low desire tends to result from the type of sex you’re having, says Engle. “Sex is not an innate human ‘drive’,” she says. “It is not like eating or sleeping. You won’t die without orgasms. The misnomer comes from the feelings we have when we’re sexually aroused – it feels like a animalistic hunger – but it isn’t.”

There are two types of horniness, says the sexologist, and usually only hear about one: spontaneous desire. The other, responsive (or receptive) desire, is much more common, she says. “We need something to trigger that horniness, whether it’s an event, erotic imagery, a fantasy, a smell,” she explains. 

“Sexual desire is a bio-psycho-social event. For desire to occur, we need the right number of factors to be in play. Bio (our body) needs to be receptive to arousal; psycho (our mind) needs to be in a mindset that allows for desire; and the social aspects (the relationship with the person/s involved in the sexual encounter) need to be in place – we need to be with people we find attractive, feel safe with, who know how to please us sexually and so on.”

Positive feelings around sex are key here. “Explore your own body, discover what feels good through self-exploration and self-pleasure,” says Christophers. “Allow yourself to think about turn-ons and understand what increases, decreases, peaks or interrupts desire and arousal for you.”

It’s about educating, empowering and liberating yourself. And that might mean challenging yours – or your partner’s – views around sex. But it’ll be worth it.

If mental health is a barrier

Mental health issues– as well as medicines taken for mental illness – can heavily impact on sexual desire, arousal and ability to orgasm. If this is the case for you, it’s important to be kind to yourself, says Christophers. “Communicate with your partner so they know how you’re feeling, and so they can understand it’s related to that, rather than anything they are/aren’t doing.”

Once you’ve had that conversation, take the pressure off yourself. Don’t feel you have to orgasm – or have sex for that matter. Cosmo’s survey found 91% of respondents said sex can be good or pleasurable without an orgasm – and more than half (51%) said they feel satisfied if they don’t orgasm during sex.

And if you do have sex, remember it’s not all about the destination, says Christophers. “Think of it as a journey to enjoy. If you’re having solo or partnered sex, let the focus be on relaxing, taking pressure off and touching for pleasure.”

There are positive mental benefits to having sex – even without the orgasm – because of chemicals released during and after, and the sense of connection it can bring. “It’s worth remembering while orgasms are great, feeling good during and after sex is great, too,” adds Christophers. 

And if you’re really struggling, it might be worth seeking out a qualified sex therapist who specialises in anxiety and depression, or other mental health disorders, as they’ll be able to offer more specific help.

Jose Wenger 2021-06-16
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Porsche said it best in describing the 2022 911 GT3 Touring: “It’s a high-performance athlete that does not show off about its talent and loves understatement,” said the German carmaker. So we essentially have here a hardcore, track-ready, and roadgoing version of a Porsche 911 without the GT3’s gigantic rear wing. Nice, huh? Porsche also offered the Touring package from … Continue reading
Jose Wenger 2021-05-27
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If you’ve ever felt like your life would suck without The Kelly Clarkson Show, you’re in luck. 

NBC has announced that Ellen DeGeneres’ daytime slot will be replaced with singer Kelly Clarkson’s talk show beginning in autumn 2022.

The decision comes just weeks after news broke that the comedian would be ending her long-running show, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, next year amid toxic workplace allegations

Kelly Clarkson on the “The Kelly Clarkson Show.”

Kelly’s Emmy-winning talk show is currently running its second season and is syndicated across the US on 200 stations. The hour-long show was renewed in December 2020 for two additional seasons through 2023.

“We look forward to Ellen DeGeneres’ 19th season paired with Kelly Clarkson for what is sure to be a blockbuster year,” Valari Staab, president of NBCUniversal Local, said in a statement to HuffPost. “By 2022, The Kelly Clarkson Show will be the star of our daytime entertainment schedules and an asset to our early afternoon newscasts.”

“Kelly and our entire production team put their heart, intent and incredible passion into making a show that resonates with people of all ages, cultures and backgrounds,” Tracie Wilson, executive vice president for NBCUniversal Syndication Studios, added. ”We’re working on some big plans for season 3 and are looking forward to becoming the premier show in daytime for years to come.”

Since the end of Ellen’s show was announced earlier this month, there has been speculation about who would replace the former daytime talk show queen. Some believed Tiffany Haddish would take over, since the comedian and actor has filled in for DeGeneres as host numerous times.

But it looks like Kelly will get the crown.

Jose Wenger 2021-04-12
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The Switch has one of the best catalogues in gaming, here are our favourites.
Jose Wenger 2021-03-19
img
My unarticulated suspicions about Asian women being objectified, dehumanized targets have been confirmed.
Jose Wenger 2021-02-25
img
"WandaVision" finally topped "The Mandalorian" and "Cobra Kai" as the most in-demand original streaming series in the US.
Jose Wenger 2021-02-13
img
"Let's face it. Now the whole world knows where the vulnerabilities of the Capitol are," said one officer. "I don't trust the people above me."
Jose Wenger 2021-01-05
img
ElectroRAT was written from scratch and was likely installed by thousands.