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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-20

Facebook is announcing a new setting that allows you to limit how much potentially sensitive content shows up in your Instagram Explore tab. According to Facebook, the new Sensitive Content Control setting will let you “see more or less of some types of sensitive content,” which may be “upsetting or offensive.” How much content the three levels, “Allow,” “Limit (Default),” and “Limit Even More” will or will not show is pretty vague, and we’ve reached out to Facebook for clarification.

On the support page for Sensitive Content Control, Instagram says that sensitive content could include sexually suggestive or violent posts, as well as posts that promote things like tobacco or pharmaceutical use. Facebook is clear that this setting is...

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After months of staying home with our partners, we’ve been released back into society without them. And while it’s a thrill to actually miss them again after some time apart, it can also feel a bit strange to be separated. 

A degree of codependency can be expected between any couple, says Jo Coker, a counselling psychologist who works with the College of Sex and Relationship Therapy. But lockdown has amplified it, leaving some of us with separation anxiety about going solo. 

“A lot of us have been shoved into this bubble and become very much dependent on each other for everything – for entertainment, for debriefing at work, our emotional life, our sexual life...,” she says. “We’ve been meeting every need for that person in lockdown, so the relationship has become so much more intense.”

Sound familiar? Here’s some signs you’ve become overly entangled in lockdown – plus the advice you need to extract yourself. 

Signs you’ve become overly codependent 

1. You only ever leave the house together 

Team walks? Team exercise? Team shopping? One of the most common things Coker is hearing among clients is unease about leaving the house alone, because couples have got so used to doing everything together. 

“For some people, they’ve been in the same space for much of lockdown and so actually leaving that space – leaving the nest where they’ve both been and where they’ve relied on each other for everything – has become quite scary and anxiety-provoking,” she says.

2. You rely on your partner during work hours

It’s normal for partners to decompress after the working day or use each other as a sounding board from time to time, but if you’re both working from home, you may have slipped into the habit of doing this throughout the day. 

“Even as the day is progressing, they might be saying ‘I’ve got this really difficult thing to do’ or ‘somebody is getting on my nerves,’” says Coker. “The partners have come far more into each other’s work space.”

If you’re worried about how you’ll cope without your partner-cum-colleague when you return to the office, it’s time to re-establish some boundaries. 

3. You’re lost without your coffee break 

Sharing a coffee break with your partner during the working day is a nice thing to do, but if it’s become a ridged ritual, this could present another challenge when you return to working separately. 

“It sounds like such a small thing, but maybe they’re used to having a coffee with their partner at 11.30am and chatting about things and suddenly, they go back to work and that’s not there,” says Coker. “Because they’ve got into that routine, it feels very odd when they return to the office and they’re on a completely different timetable.”

4. You’re wearing matching clothes

Yes, really. Coker has heard from couples who’ve slipped into matchy-matchy “clothes routines” and it could be yet another sign you’re morphing into one another. “People have got very codependent on what they’re wearing,” she says. “Some couples are saying: ‘we’ve spent the year in our pyjamas together, it’s fantastic!’ because that’s how they’ve evolved in this very tight bubble together.” 

5. You invite your partner to all social plans 

Been invited to evening drinks? Great! But do you feel the need to bring your partner along? If you’re constantly looking for a plus one, it’s another sign of codependence. 

“Previously, when you’ve been to work and somebody wants to go to the pub or the bar, that was a normal part of life – particularly in cities – but now it might feel slightly strange doing that,” says Cocker. 

6. You feel guilt about stepping outside the bubble

If you do make plans with friends alone, feeling guilty about it or having the urge to rush home is another warning sign. 

“You might be wondering ‘what about them,’” says Coker. “People almost feel as if they’re being disloyal to the bubble, like they’re being selfish or not thinking about the bubble, as opposed to just returning to normal life.”

7. You resent your partner going out

Has your partner embraced socialising while you’re staying home? Watch out for feelings of resentment. 

“You may be feeling: ‘No you should’t be going out, you should be staying home with me, because this is what we do,’” says Coker. “Couples who have become everything to each other and a substitute for every other type of relationship in lockdown may find they are cross or jealous when their partner gets back out in the world.” 

How to break codependent habits

Enjoying your partner’s company is a wonderful thing and some couples report feeling closer after lockdown. But independence brings excitement and stimulation to a relationship, says Coker, so finding balance is key to having a sustainable, happy relationship. 

If some of the points above ring true, you may find you experience feelings of separation anxiety as life returns to normal. Or, if you’ve embraced socialising to the max, it may be that your partner is experiencing separation anxiety.

Talking honestly about how you’re both feeling about the end of lockdown will help ease worries on both sides, says Cocker. 

“If one partner is rallying against that, it needs to be understood why that is the case. Is it out of fear, or is it just because they don’t want their partner to go out? Is it anxiety? You need to debrief these sorts of things to see what it is at the bottom of it,” she says.

Those with pre-existing anxiety conditions may experience codependency and separation anxiety most acutely, so if you really feel you can’t leave the house without your partner, Coker recommends seeking professional mental health support.

For those who just feel a bit “weird” about this change of routine, Coker says you can support each other back to normality by encouraging one anther to pick up the old threads of life outside of your bubble that you used to enjoy, such as a club or a different setting, like the gym. 

If you’re the one who’s uncomfortable being apart, make small plans first – get used to lunch with friends before signing up to an entire weekend away. “You don’t have to rush out and be Mr or Mrs Sociable again,” says Coker. “You can take it in a scaled way.”

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-24
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New post accepted as Chief Impact (on Press Coverage) Officer for BetterUp

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have gone full California with the news that the actor’s husband is to become a tech exec.…

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-10-01
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Yesterday might’ve been all about the Pixel 5 and its budget-friendly sibling, the Pixel 4a 5G, but those were certainly not the only new things Google unveiled.   In a blog post, the company explained the app now uses machine learning to offer automatic suggestions tailored to the specific photo you’re editing. The new feature aims to make your photos “pop” more and also comes with a user interface that lets you further tweak the AI‘s suggestions manually. The bolstered editor, which resides in the Suggestions tab in Google Photos, currently supports only three modes, but the Mountain View giant promises more…

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-12
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Einstein and other early proponents of quantum mechanics felt strongly that black holes, somehow, were the key to solving the whole… universe problem. How did the universe get here? When did it get here? How big is it? What’s it made of? Unfortunately, our position in the cosmos makes it difficult to answer any of those questions. We’re stuck here about 1,500 light years away from the nearest black hole. Scientists have posited many explanations for the existence of black holes, but all we really know about them is that they suck. Theoretically, black holes have infinitely dense centers. And…

This story continues at The Next Web
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-05-05
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"Calling most of the folks in the Reddit mob 'retail investors' is a misnomer. They are engaging in speculative activity," one expert said.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-12
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Virtual reality has existed for nearly two decades, but it still hasn't proven to be "the future of technology." Here are a few reasons why.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-09-29
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The Mi Band 5 is another solid release from Xiaomi.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-13
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'Single threat actor' already abusing RCE flaw, Microsoft reports

SolarWinds has issued an emergency patch after a critical security hole in its Serv-U Managed File Transfer and Serv-U Secure FTP was spotted being exploited in the wild.…

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-04-14
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Manhunt, a gay dating app that claims to have 6 million male members, has confirmed it was hit by a data breach in February after a hacker gained access to the company’s accounts database. In a notice filed with the Washington attorney general’s office, Manhunt said the hacker “gained access to a database that stored […]
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-12
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The IRS requires an amended tax return for the stimulus' exemption on the first $10,200 of unemployment benefits. 21 Senators want that to change.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-09-16
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I’ve waited to write this review for several reasons. First off, NBA 2K21 has not launched to the kind of acclaim the series is used to. I wanted to give the developers a bit of time to patch things up before I finalized my impressions. Second, like a lot of you, my game wasn’t working properly. I wasn’t able to join multiplayer matches at launch – luckily that was quickly fixed and it’s working buttery smooth for me now – and the Mamba Edition bonuses weren’t working for me after a full week had passed. This review focuses on the…

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-06-22
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Paramount Plus replaced CBS All Access with a new name, wider catalog and more originals -- like a reboot of Nickelodeon's iCarly sitcom. Here's everything to know.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-25
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When it comes to having to defend their home turf, there are a few countries that are just not going to roll over.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-10-30
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"I am pro-life, and unapologetically so," Ivanka Trump said days ahead of an election that will determine whether her father is reelected president.
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Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-08-03
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Pixel 4a 5G

As we wrote recently, today we are waiting for the presentation of the budget smartphone from Google – Pixel 4a. But, Google does not forget ...

The post Google Pixel 5 and Pixel 4a 5G spotted together in a press photo appeared first on Gizchina.com.

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Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-20

Facebook is announcing a new setting that allows you to limit how much potentially sensitive content shows up in your Instagram Explore tab. According to Facebook, the new Sensitive Content Control setting will let you “see more or less of some types of sensitive content,” which may be “upsetting or offensive.” How much content the three levels, “Allow,” “Limit (Default),” and “Limit Even More” will or will not show is pretty vague, and we’ve reached out to Facebook for clarification.

On the support page for Sensitive Content Control, Instagram says that sensitive content could include sexually suggestive or violent posts, as well as posts that promote things like tobacco or pharmaceutical use. Facebook is clear that this setting is...

Continue reading…

Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-13
img

'Single threat actor' already abusing RCE flaw, Microsoft reports

SolarWinds has issued an emergency patch after a critical security hole in its Serv-U Managed File Transfer and Serv-U Secure FTP was spotted being exploited in the wild.…

Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-05-13
img

After months of staying home with our partners, we’ve been released back into society without them. And while it’s a thrill to actually miss them again after some time apart, it can also feel a bit strange to be separated. 

A degree of codependency can be expected between any couple, says Jo Coker, a counselling psychologist who works with the College of Sex and Relationship Therapy. But lockdown has amplified it, leaving some of us with separation anxiety about going solo. 

“A lot of us have been shoved into this bubble and become very much dependent on each other for everything – for entertainment, for debriefing at work, our emotional life, our sexual life...,” she says. “We’ve been meeting every need for that person in lockdown, so the relationship has become so much more intense.”

Sound familiar? Here’s some signs you’ve become overly entangled in lockdown – plus the advice you need to extract yourself. 

Signs you’ve become overly codependent 

1. You only ever leave the house together 

Team walks? Team exercise? Team shopping? One of the most common things Coker is hearing among clients is unease about leaving the house alone, because couples have got so used to doing everything together. 

“For some people, they’ve been in the same space for much of lockdown and so actually leaving that space – leaving the nest where they’ve both been and where they’ve relied on each other for everything – has become quite scary and anxiety-provoking,” she says.

2. You rely on your partner during work hours

It’s normal for partners to decompress after the working day or use each other as a sounding board from time to time, but if you’re both working from home, you may have slipped into the habit of doing this throughout the day. 

“Even as the day is progressing, they might be saying ‘I’ve got this really difficult thing to do’ or ‘somebody is getting on my nerves,’” says Coker. “The partners have come far more into each other’s work space.”

If you’re worried about how you’ll cope without your partner-cum-colleague when you return to the office, it’s time to re-establish some boundaries. 

3. You’re lost without your coffee break 

Sharing a coffee break with your partner during the working day is a nice thing to do, but if it’s become a ridged ritual, this could present another challenge when you return to working separately. 

“It sounds like such a small thing, but maybe they’re used to having a coffee with their partner at 11.30am and chatting about things and suddenly, they go back to work and that’s not there,” says Coker. “Because they’ve got into that routine, it feels very odd when they return to the office and they’re on a completely different timetable.”

4. You’re wearing matching clothes

Yes, really. Coker has heard from couples who’ve slipped into matchy-matchy “clothes routines” and it could be yet another sign you’re morphing into one another. “People have got very codependent on what they’re wearing,” she says. “Some couples are saying: ‘we’ve spent the year in our pyjamas together, it’s fantastic!’ because that’s how they’ve evolved in this very tight bubble together.” 

5. You invite your partner to all social plans 

Been invited to evening drinks? Great! But do you feel the need to bring your partner along? If you’re constantly looking for a plus one, it’s another sign of codependence. 

“Previously, when you’ve been to work and somebody wants to go to the pub or the bar, that was a normal part of life – particularly in cities – but now it might feel slightly strange doing that,” says Cocker. 

6. You feel guilt about stepping outside the bubble

If you do make plans with friends alone, feeling guilty about it or having the urge to rush home is another warning sign. 

“You might be wondering ‘what about them,’” says Coker. “People almost feel as if they’re being disloyal to the bubble, like they’re being selfish or not thinking about the bubble, as opposed to just returning to normal life.”

7. You resent your partner going out

Has your partner embraced socialising while you’re staying home? Watch out for feelings of resentment. 

“You may be feeling: ‘No you should’t be going out, you should be staying home with me, because this is what we do,’” says Coker. “Couples who have become everything to each other and a substitute for every other type of relationship in lockdown may find they are cross or jealous when their partner gets back out in the world.” 

How to break codependent habits

Enjoying your partner’s company is a wonderful thing and some couples report feeling closer after lockdown. But independence brings excitement and stimulation to a relationship, says Coker, so finding balance is key to having a sustainable, happy relationship. 

If some of the points above ring true, you may find you experience feelings of separation anxiety as life returns to normal. Or, if you’ve embraced socialising to the max, it may be that your partner is experiencing separation anxiety.

Talking honestly about how you’re both feeling about the end of lockdown will help ease worries on both sides, says Cocker. 

“If one partner is rallying against that, it needs to be understood why that is the case. Is it out of fear, or is it just because they don’t want their partner to go out? Is it anxiety? You need to debrief these sorts of things to see what it is at the bottom of it,” she says.

Those with pre-existing anxiety conditions may experience codependency and separation anxiety most acutely, so if you really feel you can’t leave the house without your partner, Coker recommends seeking professional mental health support.

For those who just feel a bit “weird” about this change of routine, Coker says you can support each other back to normality by encouraging one anther to pick up the old threads of life outside of your bubble that you used to enjoy, such as a club or a different setting, like the gym. 

If you’re the one who’s uncomfortable being apart, make small plans first – get used to lunch with friends before signing up to an entire weekend away. “You don’t have to rush out and be Mr or Mrs Sociable again,” says Coker. “You can take it in a scaled way.”

Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-04-14
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Manhunt, a gay dating app that claims to have 6 million male members, has confirmed it was hit by a data breach in February after a hacker gained access to the company’s accounts database. In a notice filed with the Washington attorney general’s office, Manhunt said the hacker “gained access to a database that stored […]
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-24
img

New post accepted as Chief Impact (on Press Coverage) Officer for BetterUp

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have gone full California with the news that the actor’s husband is to become a tech exec.…

Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-12
img
The IRS requires an amended tax return for the stimulus' exemption on the first $10,200 of unemployment benefits. 21 Senators want that to change.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-10-01
img

Yesterday might’ve been all about the Pixel 5 and its budget-friendly sibling, the Pixel 4a 5G, but those were certainly not the only new things Google unveiled.   In a blog post, the company explained the app now uses machine learning to offer automatic suggestions tailored to the specific photo you’re editing. The new feature aims to make your photos “pop” more and also comes with a user interface that lets you further tweak the AI‘s suggestions manually. The bolstered editor, which resides in the Suggestions tab in Google Photos, currently supports only three modes, but the Mountain View giant promises more…

This story continues at The Next Web

Or just read more coverage about: Google
Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-09-16
img

I’ve waited to write this review for several reasons. First off, NBA 2K21 has not launched to the kind of acclaim the series is used to. I wanted to give the developers a bit of time to patch things up before I finalized my impressions. Second, like a lot of you, my game wasn’t working properly. I wasn’t able to join multiplayer matches at launch – luckily that was quickly fixed and it’s working buttery smooth for me now – and the Mamba Edition bonuses weren’t working for me after a full week had passed. This review focuses on the…

This story continues at The Next Web
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-07-12
img

Einstein and other early proponents of quantum mechanics felt strongly that black holes, somehow, were the key to solving the whole… universe problem. How did the universe get here? When did it get here? How big is it? What’s it made of? Unfortunately, our position in the cosmos makes it difficult to answer any of those questions. We’re stuck here about 1,500 light years away from the nearest black hole. Scientists have posited many explanations for the existence of black holes, but all we really know about them is that they suck. Theoretically, black holes have infinitely dense centers. And…

This story continues at The Next Web
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-06-22
img
Paramount Plus replaced CBS All Access with a new name, wider catalog and more originals -- like a reboot of Nickelodeon's iCarly sitcom. Here's everything to know.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-05-05
img
"Calling most of the folks in the Reddit mob 'retail investors' is a misnomer. They are engaging in speculative activity," one expert said.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-25
img
When it comes to having to defend their home turf, there are a few countries that are just not going to roll over.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2021-03-12
img
Virtual reality has existed for nearly two decades, but it still hasn't proven to be "the future of technology." Here are a few reasons why.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-10-30
img
"I am pro-life, and unapologetically so," Ivanka Trump said days ahead of an election that will determine whether her father is reelected president.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-09-29
img
The Mi Band 5 is another solid release from Xiaomi.
Kenneth Mulcahy 2020-08-03
img
Pixel 4a 5G

As we wrote recently, today we are waiting for the presentation of the budget smartphone from Google – Pixel 4a. But, Google does not forget ...

The post Google Pixel 5 and Pixel 4a 5G spotted together in a press photo appeared first on Gizchina.com.