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Grid Legends is the newest addition to EA's racing series, and it features a full story mode.
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Lillie Snow 2021-06-07
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Plus: Mayweather's OnlyFans hat, Logan Paul claiming he's becoming "the biggest entertainer in the world" and more.
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Lillie Snow 2021-03-19
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Humans dump an estimated 10 billion gallons of potential biofuel into landfills every year. Researchers found a way to capitalize on it.
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Lillie Snow 2021-02-24
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Senate Democrats are awaiting a key decision that would determine whether a $15 minimum wage can be included in the final package.
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Lillie Snow 2021-07-02
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Next version of iPhone software boasts plenty of changes, but experience will be buggy for now

If you aren't afraid of life on the bleeding edge, Apple has rolled out the first public beta version of iOS 15, allowing anyone with a taste for buggy pre-release software to get their fix.…

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Lillie Snow 2021-04-08
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In conventional warfare, it’s accepted that if a state finds itself under attack, it’s entitled to respond – either with defensive force, or with a counterattack. But it’s less clear how countries should respond to cyberattacks: state-backed hacks which often have dangerous real-world implications. The 2020 SolarWinds hack, attributed to state-backed Russian hackers, breached security at around 100 private companies. But it also infiltrated nine US federal agencies – including the US Energy Department, which oversees the country’s nuclear weapons stockpile. Such attacks are expected to become more common. Recently, the UK’s 2021 Strategic Defence Review confirmed the creation of…

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Lillie Snow 2021-03-12
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Twitter is a hard place for women. When we’re not being abused for having opinions, we’re expected to share our memories of abuse in order to educate men.

When the news broke about with the suspected murder of Sarah Everard, Twitter became filled with two things: devastated women, and men in shock that this had happened. Why was she out late at night on her own? Why didn’t she call someone? Why wasn’t she covered up? 

In response, many incredible women came forward to share their own experience of being harassed in public. They talked of being followed, feeling unsafe on public transport or in taxis, being approached at bus stops, being groped in broad daylight, being followed on busy streets, and never ever being able to escape it no matter what we do or how we act.

Of course the typical reaction from these men soon came, you know the one: “well whoa whoa whoa! I think you’ll find that’s only a small handful of men, not all men”. It’s such a well-known retort I bet you even read it in a condescending male tone.

So once again, we had to defend ourselves. We know it’s not all men – many of us have partners who love us, amazing sons, brothers, fathers and so on. But the point is it’s enough men that nearly all women have experiences some form of harassment. Enough that one in five women have been sexually assaulted. Enough that we know all of these ways to “not get raped”, and know they won’t save us anyway.

While I shared some of my story, it got to a point where I had to stop, because I literally couldn’t stop scrolling and crying.

Sometimes though, it gets too much, and you’re physically spent. Having to constantly relive something you’ve worked so hard to get past just so men on social media will believe that this really happened and nobody ever is as fault and you just have to call it a day. You can’t read about another of your amazing, kind, beautiful, smart friends being followed down the street or groped or made to feel defenceless because all a man saw was an object. 

As much as you want to share your story, you just can’t. This happened to me. 

While I shared some of my story, it got to a point where I had to stop, because I literally couldn’t stop scrolling and crying. This was out of frustration more than anything else.

So instead, I tweeted: “Solidarity with all the women sharing their stories today and all of those who aren’t. You don’t owe twitter your trauma. Look after yourselves everyone”

I’ve been sharing my story since I had a social media account, through #EverydaySexism when I went to a feminist event then was followed down to the train station by a group of men. Safe home, I tweeted my anger only to be told it hadn’t happened. During #MeToo I told stories of the older men who took advantage, only to have to delete them when their friends found them and piled on.

Maybe you don’t want to share your story, because you’re the only one who knows or you don’t want to upset your family. That’s okay too. You know and you’re who matters most, you’re not doing anyone a disservice.

Perhaps you can’t share because the abuse is still happening – trust me I know where you’re coming from and I sincerely hope you don’t have to hear people discussing this with your abuser while he gives a “not all men”. I hope you get out. I am rooting for you. 

Whenever things like this happen, the onus is always on women to share their stories in order to show just how much it happens.

It could be that you just don’t want to share your trauma, you know that it won’t be a good experience for you, so you’re choosing not to. You think it’s nobody’s business but yours. You’d be 100% right there too and I fully support you in that. Points for sticking to those healthy boundaries (also, help?).

Whenever things like this happen (and they always happen, don’t they?) the onus is always on women to share their stories in order to show just how much it happens. But it’s never on the men to have conversations with their friends, to call out their sexism and harmful behaviour or to tell them to leave a girl alone if they can see he’s making her uncomfortable. As they say, women are taught how to not get raped, but men are never taught how not to rape.

The reason sharing traumas on days like these can be triggering especially is that nothing ever changes. Men don’t suddenly stop harassing and assaulting us. Of course sharing brings us together, but can also be massively taxing on us all. Every woman I know is mentally exhausted right now. 

Amazing as everyone sharing their stories is, please know it’s also a great act of resilience to take a step back and look after yourself if you don’t want to share. It doesn’t make what happened to you any less real. I believe you. 

Rachel Charlton-Daily is a freelance journalist. Follow her on Twitter at @RachelCDailey

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Lillie Snow 2021-02-17
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For the 25th anniversary of the classic comedy Happy Gilmore, Adam Sandler brings back the swing.
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Lillie Snow 2021-06-24
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The "Deals for Days" sale has officially ended, but some key sales are still available.
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Lillie Snow 2021-03-29
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We had a professional chocolatier taste 13 brands to find the best chocolate you can buy for any special occasion - or to treat yourself.
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Lillie Snow 2021-03-05
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Director Malcolm D. Lee says the character was modernized for 2021 and some social-media users dunked on the new look.
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Lillie Snow 2021-01-06
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From Marvel hopefuls to mind-bending dramas, here are all the series you'll need to keep an eye on this year.
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Lillie Snow 2021-06-13
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If you want to spice up a rewatch of classic sci-fi series The X-Files in 2021, we'll break down how to do a 'Mytharc' rewatch in 2021.
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Lillie Snow 2021-03-23
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You can contact Instagram support by phone or try to get Instagram customer service assistance through the online Help Center.
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Lillie Snow 2021-02-25
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The protections for LGBTQ Americans would extend to employment, housing, loan applications, education, public accommodations and other areas.
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Lillie Snow 2020-10-21
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We discuss the evolution of AV over IP solutions from the perspective of manufacturers including 1 Beyond, Harman, Aurora Multimedia, Black Box, Crestron, DVIGear, Extron, Hall Research, Kramer Electronics, QSC, RGB Spectrum, Utelogy, ZeeVee, SDVoE Alliance and Silex Insight.
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Lillie Snow 2021-07-22
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Grid Legends is the newest addition to EA's racing series, and it features a full story mode.
Lillie Snow 2021-06-24
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The "Deals for Days" sale has officially ended, but some key sales are still available.
Lillie Snow 2021-06-07
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Plus: Mayweather's OnlyFans hat, Logan Paul claiming he's becoming "the biggest entertainer in the world" and more.
Lillie Snow 2021-03-29
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We had a professional chocolatier taste 13 brands to find the best chocolate you can buy for any special occasion - or to treat yourself.
Lillie Snow 2021-03-19
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Humans dump an estimated 10 billion gallons of potential biofuel into landfills every year. Researchers found a way to capitalize on it.
Lillie Snow 2021-03-05
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Director Malcolm D. Lee says the character was modernized for 2021 and some social-media users dunked on the new look.
Lillie Snow 2021-02-24
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Senate Democrats are awaiting a key decision that would determine whether a $15 minimum wage can be included in the final package.
Lillie Snow 2021-01-06
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From Marvel hopefuls to mind-bending dramas, here are all the series you'll need to keep an eye on this year.
Lillie Snow 2021-07-02
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Next version of iPhone software boasts plenty of changes, but experience will be buggy for now

If you aren't afraid of life on the bleeding edge, Apple has rolled out the first public beta version of iOS 15, allowing anyone with a taste for buggy pre-release software to get their fix.…

Lillie Snow 2021-06-13
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If you want to spice up a rewatch of classic sci-fi series The X-Files in 2021, we'll break down how to do a 'Mytharc' rewatch in 2021.
Lillie Snow 2021-04-08
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In conventional warfare, it’s accepted that if a state finds itself under attack, it’s entitled to respond – either with defensive force, or with a counterattack. But it’s less clear how countries should respond to cyberattacks: state-backed hacks which often have dangerous real-world implications. The 2020 SolarWinds hack, attributed to state-backed Russian hackers, breached security at around 100 private companies. But it also infiltrated nine US federal agencies – including the US Energy Department, which oversees the country’s nuclear weapons stockpile. Such attacks are expected to become more common. Recently, the UK’s 2021 Strategic Defence Review confirmed the creation of…

This story continues at The Next Web
Lillie Snow 2021-03-23
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You can contact Instagram support by phone or try to get Instagram customer service assistance through the online Help Center.
Lillie Snow 2021-03-12
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Twitter is a hard place for women. When we’re not being abused for having opinions, we’re expected to share our memories of abuse in order to educate men.

When the news broke about with the suspected murder of Sarah Everard, Twitter became filled with two things: devastated women, and men in shock that this had happened. Why was she out late at night on her own? Why didn’t she call someone? Why wasn’t she covered up? 

In response, many incredible women came forward to share their own experience of being harassed in public. They talked of being followed, feeling unsafe on public transport or in taxis, being approached at bus stops, being groped in broad daylight, being followed on busy streets, and never ever being able to escape it no matter what we do or how we act.

Of course the typical reaction from these men soon came, you know the one: “well whoa whoa whoa! I think you’ll find that’s only a small handful of men, not all men”. It’s such a well-known retort I bet you even read it in a condescending male tone.

So once again, we had to defend ourselves. We know it’s not all men – many of us have partners who love us, amazing sons, brothers, fathers and so on. But the point is it’s enough men that nearly all women have experiences some form of harassment. Enough that one in five women have been sexually assaulted. Enough that we know all of these ways to “not get raped”, and know they won’t save us anyway.

While I shared some of my story, it got to a point where I had to stop, because I literally couldn’t stop scrolling and crying.

Sometimes though, it gets too much, and you’re physically spent. Having to constantly relive something you’ve worked so hard to get past just so men on social media will believe that this really happened and nobody ever is as fault and you just have to call it a day. You can’t read about another of your amazing, kind, beautiful, smart friends being followed down the street or groped or made to feel defenceless because all a man saw was an object. 

As much as you want to share your story, you just can’t. This happened to me. 

While I shared some of my story, it got to a point where I had to stop, because I literally couldn’t stop scrolling and crying. This was out of frustration more than anything else.

So instead, I tweeted: “Solidarity with all the women sharing their stories today and all of those who aren’t. You don’t owe twitter your trauma. Look after yourselves everyone”

I’ve been sharing my story since I had a social media account, through #EverydaySexism when I went to a feminist event then was followed down to the train station by a group of men. Safe home, I tweeted my anger only to be told it hadn’t happened. During #MeToo I told stories of the older men who took advantage, only to have to delete them when their friends found them and piled on.

Maybe you don’t want to share your story, because you’re the only one who knows or you don’t want to upset your family. That’s okay too. You know and you’re who matters most, you’re not doing anyone a disservice.

Perhaps you can’t share because the abuse is still happening – trust me I know where you’re coming from and I sincerely hope you don’t have to hear people discussing this with your abuser while he gives a “not all men”. I hope you get out. I am rooting for you. 

Whenever things like this happen, the onus is always on women to share their stories in order to show just how much it happens.

It could be that you just don’t want to share your trauma, you know that it won’t be a good experience for you, so you’re choosing not to. You think it’s nobody’s business but yours. You’d be 100% right there too and I fully support you in that. Points for sticking to those healthy boundaries (also, help?).

Whenever things like this happen (and they always happen, don’t they?) the onus is always on women to share their stories in order to show just how much it happens. But it’s never on the men to have conversations with their friends, to call out their sexism and harmful behaviour or to tell them to leave a girl alone if they can see he’s making her uncomfortable. As they say, women are taught how to not get raped, but men are never taught how not to rape.

The reason sharing traumas on days like these can be triggering especially is that nothing ever changes. Men don’t suddenly stop harassing and assaulting us. Of course sharing brings us together, but can also be massively taxing on us all. Every woman I know is mentally exhausted right now. 

Amazing as everyone sharing their stories is, please know it’s also a great act of resilience to take a step back and look after yourself if you don’t want to share. It doesn’t make what happened to you any less real. I believe you. 

Rachel Charlton-Daily is a freelance journalist. Follow her on Twitter at @RachelCDailey

Lillie Snow 2021-02-25
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The protections for LGBTQ Americans would extend to employment, housing, loan applications, education, public accommodations and other areas.
Lillie Snow 2021-02-17
img
For the 25th anniversary of the classic comedy Happy Gilmore, Adam Sandler brings back the swing.
Lillie Snow 2020-10-21
img
We discuss the evolution of AV over IP solutions from the perspective of manufacturers including 1 Beyond, Harman, Aurora Multimedia, Black Box, Crestron, DVIGear, Extron, Hall Research, Kramer Electronics, QSC, RGB Spectrum, Utelogy, ZeeVee, SDVoE Alliance and Silex Insight.