If you’re considering couples therapy, you have probably found that the relationship that you started with has changed. Intimate relationships are extremely important in our lives, and when they are not functioning the way they should, everything in life becomes more challenging. The good news is any improvement in this area can dramatically impact overall happiness. This is one of the reasons I really enjoy working with couples.
My approach is direct. I help couples say the things that are most difficult to say. Equally important, I help you listen to one another. Communication is a key component in any relationship and if that is absent in some way, therein lies the essential issue. Showing you how to communicate without criticizing, defending, demanding or feeling angry will better serve you and your partner in the long run. Making sure that each individual feels heard and understood is my highest priority and teaching you skills to do that will be helpful.
My next priority is to not waste your time. I feel I am doing you a disservice if I allow you to repeat your usual dynamic and not make progress. While remaining neutral, I will help you each look at the contributions you are making to the situation that brought you in to begin with.
- Couples counseling is especially useful if you are experiencing any of the following:
- Loss of interest in sex
- Distance and loneliness
- Communication problems
- Resentment and bitterness
- Infidelity
- Anxiety
- Unrealistic expectations
- Disappointment
- Lack of intimacy
- Conflict resolution