Do you know how to become a guide who will help your child find his or her own way to a happy life?Such natural guides are parents.
They themselves have been prepared for life by their parents and most often they copy (consciously or unconsciously) the schemes and beliefs instilled in them by their carers.For many centuries this system has worked quite well.
The living conditions did not change drastically over the course of one generation - what worked well in the world of parents in the majority, with minor modifications, worked well in the world of their children.This model is no longer a good exam in the modern world.
Social, moral and technical changes are taking place so quickly that the world of children and parents are completely different worlds.The world of our grandparents had established patterns: social status and opportunities, depending mainly on their background and education - only a few individuals were able to break out of their environment.
Most often children followed in the footsteps of their parents - several generations worked all their lives in the same factory, in the same profession.Also, the children's upbringing patterns were copied without major changes - because the parents didn't even realize that they could change something.Our parents' world has partly changed these conditions.
Those who were passionate about their profession were able to awaken aspirations and willingness to deepen their knowledge in young minds, although it still depended to a great extent on the attitude of their parents whether something beautiful would grow out of this seed or be trampled on by contempt and destructive criticism.The role of knowledge was more and more appreciated - it was a ticket to better work, better material conditions, but still the role played by the beliefs instilled in our childhood was underestimated.And they were often copies of what previous generations passed on: "you're not good enough", "you don't deserve attention and respect", "others are smarter and better than you", "you mustn't be selfish, the needs of others first, yours at the end", "showing your feelings is a sign of weakness", "you're only fit to listen to commands", "keep your head down, be like others", "life is hard", and so on.In the result, better material conditions did not mean a better, happier life.Parents who were not happy themselves did not know how to teach happiness to their children - also no-one taught them this.More and more responsibility for raising children was placed on school - and it is not school, but home is a place where children's characters and attitudes are formed.Whether children feel loved at home or whether parents are wise guides and support for them depends on how they are able to take advantage of the growing opportunities they face.In order to do this task well, it is high time to realize that to be a good parent you also have to prepare yourself.
