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What you should do when a girl leaves you on ‘read’?

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Dating Coach USA

If you like a girl who is nice, pretty and seems interested in you, it’s so natural for you to engage more with her. Text her, talk to her, respect her, care for her, and try to build a healthy Relationship with her if you want to. That is the kind of thing you would naturally do as a man. If she is really interested in you, she would respond, like your messages and allow the relationship to grow.

But, if she is not sure, she would give mixed signals. And she might also start taking breaks from chats with you more frequently and can even leave you on read. If she does that despite showing some interest in you initially, then that is not fair. It can be both frustrating and confusing for you.

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As a man, what should you do if she leaves you on read?

There are men who don’t have patience or self-respect. They just go after the girl like a dog. But remember, you are completely different from them. You have dignity and self-respect that you cannot allow to get broken for a girl that disrespected you and your sentiments by leaving you on read. Whether there was an exceptional circumstance that forced her to do this or she did it purposely, the fact of the matter is she ignored you and hurt your sentiments. And you are not going to appreciate this.

If the girl really likes you and she just went through an exceptional circumstance like too many assignments, family issues, unforeseen mishap, hectic schedule or any other thing, you will definitely know that. She would tell you about this and you will understand her. But, if there is no such exceptional circumstance and she suddenly left you on read without telling the reason, then there is something wrong. If you feel like the girl disrespected you out of her ego issues or superiority complex, then you are not going to tolerate this.  Social media is giving a lot of free attention to girls these days, and because of that their egos are as fragile as men’s egos. So, just relax and take it easy.

 

The first thing you would do is be silent for at least 24 hours. No more text, no more messages and no more calls until she answers. If the 24 hours have passed and there is no response from her, send her a message saying, “I really don’t appreciate being left on read like that. That’s very disrespectful to me. I was very excited to see you and I thought you’re unique and very different from other girls. Take care!”

What you did by shooting that text can actually be very shocking for her as most girls are not used to that kind of message. She would understand that you are a man who stands up for himself. After reading the text if she still persists being silent, then know that that girl was not for you. And if she really liked you, she would feel compelled enough to reach out to you. This is exactly what we want to test. We want to see if she actually cares enough to reach out. When she does eventually reach out, you need to maintain your composure and enthusiasm, and also maintain a bit of a distance, just enough for her to notice that you're not as engaging with her as you were before. If she asks you why you’re behaving like this, tell her that you don’t appreciate being left on read. And if she sincerely apologizes after that, stay with her. Else, back off completely and stop. Then it’s best if you two don’t continue.

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