The birth of children is one of the functions of the family and happiness for parents. But children do not appear only in a full family, and they are not always welcome.
The reasons why a woman decides to have a child can be very different. Usually this is a whole complex of different motives. Some of them are constructive and lead to the fact that the child will be born in a family that is emotionally, morally and physically ready for his arrival, and, therefore, the physical health and psychological well-being of this baby will be better and stronger.
Most of the motives for the birth of a child are not realized or partially realized by a woman and her husband, they can be identified only with a properly conducted conversation with a specialist.
What are the main, common motives?
Constructive motives are primarily related to the feeling of love
• to give a new life in order to gain immortality, as it were, by repeating oneself in the child;
• as an appreciation to a loved one for the happiness of living together;
• the desire to bring another unique personality into the world (the birth and upbringing of such a person who has not yet existed).
The following motives may be destructive for family relations:
-force a partner to marry
-strengthen family relationships ("bind" to yourself, return your husband, prevent his departure, etc.);
-give birth "out of spite" to your partner in order to demonstrate your power
- for a single woman: to give birth, "so that there is at least one close person", so that there is someone to take care of;
-replace another child or a close relative who has died with a child who has been born
- get a more favorable social status
- "be like everyone else";
- demonstrate to parents that she has become (has become) an adult;
- force your parents or your husband's parents to accept marriage;
- fulfill the parents' insistent request for the birth of a grandson or granddaughter;
-give birth "for health" (often on the advice of a doctor);
-get material benefits (benefits, alimony, improve living space, etc.) and much more.
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