How to rest properly. Psychologist's advice

Do you need a vacation, a long trip with bright photo reports - to the envy of everyone, or lying on a crowded beach to feel real relaxation and a surge of strength?

Or are these just familiar stereotypes?

On the clockwise hook

Before deciding how best to relax, let's find out what usually tires us the most. Although all people are different, certain patterns still exist.

In the first place-the need to keep track of time, adhering to the work schedule. Always hurry, looking at the clock in horror, and try to be in time everywhere.

Sometimes, especially when you have to go to work, you really want to sleep for at least half an hour. And we make a titanic effort, forcing ourselves to pull ourselves together and leave. On weekends, on the contrary, we wake up early and go half-asleep all day. And I still can't rest.

So we neglect the needs of the body for the sake of work or everyday chores. Its reserves are exhausted, and we become irritable or apathetic, even our favorite work does not bring the same pleasure.

The monotony of life's rhythm is also very tiring. And not so much it, but the inability to break out of this vicious circle. It is as if you always owe someone something - you must prepare breakfast and dinner, having previously taken care of the necessary products. Collect children for school or kindergarten, get ready for work yourself.

And on weekends, wash and iron things, clean up, check lessons. Maybe go for a walk with your family, go to the movies, or visit. And despite the idyllic nature of the picture, the feeling that you do not live for yourself, you do the necessary things, but you do not need them exclusively. And although you do everything as if correctly, more and more often it seems that you are being used, that you do not live, but live by you.

Suitcase without handle

The need to do what you need, and not what you want, is also very annoying. And it is always" necessary " for someone, of course. even your closest ones, but not you. It's not even so much about "good deeds", but about the ritual communication itself about nothing.

Each of us has a relationship that psychologists call time sinks. From myself, I will add - and energy that would be more useful to use at least for lying on the couch and thinking about the meaning of life.

Calculate how much time it takes you to talk over the phone or correspond on the internet with people with whom communication has already exhausted itself.

But it still rests on this unknown fictional "inconvenient". It is inconvenient not to answer unnecessary calls, not to listen, falsely sympathizing, to the vicissitudes of someone else's life. It is inconvenient to be the first to terminate obsolete contacts. This is how many stories you could write, draw pictures, learn languages, wind circles around the park or stadium in that time!

The most annoying thing is that it is not those who impose Communication who are to blame for such a meaningless waste of time and effort, but ourselves. Because we can't stop it.

Conversely, meeting people we really miss, who have so much to say or hear from, is often postponed until later because of our own concern.